It is critical to involve men in the discussion if we want to tackle deep-rooted gender inequalities in the country.

In the early years of my career, I worked at CEDPA (now Centre for Catalyzing Change), a pioneer in working with adolescent girls in India. As we interacted and engaged with young women, there were demands from them, “You have changed my life. Now please change the thinking of my future husband.”

We soon began to realise that to effectively challenge and change gender inequalities, we needed to get men involved, not just to make it easier for the girls, but for the sake of the boys and men themselves.

young men in India working in a group - masculinity in India
Photo Courtesy: Equal Community Foundation

What does masculinity mean for men growing up in India?

The concept of masculinity shapes young men’s thinking and the way they are socialised in their growing years; it forms and sets their understanding, thought process and action for years to come.

There were also unsaid rules on what boys themselves could and couldn’t do.During a discussion with college-going young men in Lucknow, Uttar Pradesh in October 2016, they shared how they followed what was prescribed by society. These young men unquestioningly did what their fathers and elder men in their families and communities did. They had minimal interaction with girls, didn’t particularly understand what girls said and meant, and didn’t know how to talk to them. There was a strong belief among them that when girls said no they actually meant yes.

There were also unsaid rules on what boys themselves could and couldn’t do. A young man shared how he enjoyed cooking but his family frowned upon it until he rationalised it for them: he needed to learn it, he said, in order to survive once he began to live alone for higher studies and work. In another interaction, young married men in rural Maharashtra shared how there was opposition from within the family initially, when they started doing household work and helping their wives. One man shared how the biggest opposition was from his parents, especially his mother. “She felt I would become my wife’s slave. Her fear was that I would leave my parents and not listen to her.”

In 2013, the International Center for Research on Women (ICRW) and UNFPA undertook a research study to understand perceptions of masculinity in India, learn more about men’s attitudes and behaviour towards women and girls, and to inform effective programming strategies.

A disturbing finding from the study was that the greatest proportion of rigidly masculine men were in the youngest age group (18-24), a time when many men in India marry. Experiencing economic stress also increased men’s likelihood of holding rigid notions about masculinity.

Addressing masculinity, deconstructing patriarchy

Despite how entrenched this issue of masculinity is in the country, not many organisations work with boys and men in India. Notable exceptions include Centre for Health and Social Justice, Equal Community Foundation, YP Foundation, Halo Medical Foundation, MAVA among others.

Masculinity is something that is dynamic. – ICRWAccording to a reviewby the Public Health Foundation of India and ICRW in 2014, organisations used gender-accommodating or gender-transformative strategies to change attitudes of men and boys around gender-equity.

Programmes that used accommodating strategies typically engaged men in their roles as husbands, partners and community members. Transformative programmes mainly used social and behavioural change communication strategies to target husbands and young men, encouraging them to reflect and question established masculine behaviour, traditional gender and social norms, and roles and relationships that may have adverse effects.

There have also been attempts to work with boys and men as agents in deconstructing forms of patriarchy, preventing violence and discrimination, and raising gender equitable boys and young men. It has been found that well-designed and well-conceptualised programmes do change men, their gender attitudes and their idea of masculinity.

There’s a long way to go

Many programmes (and a bulk of the funding) that engage men and boys do so from a lens of preventing violence against women. However, at a time when the perception and impact of masculinity is in itself problematic, it is not enough that we only work with men and boys through the lens of their impact on girls and women.

In order to make India truly gender-equitable, we need programmes that understand and challenge the traditional idea of masculinity and initiate reflection and questioning.

We should also be careful that including men and boys does not mean positioning them as ‘saviours’ or ‘protectors’ of women and girls.

group of a young boys - masculinity in India
Photo Courtesy: Equal Community Foundation

The need to stay invested and engaged

There is a continued need for programme interventions to catch men young, make them gender-sensitive and question established norms, build their capacities and help them become active participants in their own development. However, this is easier said than done.

For starters, there has been limited funding available. Bringing about such normative and structural change requires long-term investment.

There is also the fear, at times, that work with men and boys will deplete resources for girls and women. Due to the complex, deep-seated nature of these norms and the discomfort in discussing them, programmes which seek to change them require a long-term, consistent engagement working with the same group of boys and young men over time. Most funders are often not willing to make such investment in initiatives that take time to produce visible results.

Changing deep set beliefs on gender is not easy and doesn’t happen overnight. But if we want to improve the lives of young women and men in this country, we don’t have a choice.

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Renuka Motihar

Renuka Motihar

Renuka Motihar is an independent consultant working on social development issues based in New Delhi. With a background in social sciences, Renuka works in the areas of young people’s health and development, reproductive health and broader social, leadership and gender related issues. Renuka has worked as a program consultant with various international and national agencies - including UN agencies, private foundations, NGOs, consulting firms and bilateral agencies. Her major focus has been on program planning; landscape assessments and analyses; review, impact assessments and program evaluations and good practice documentation. She is deeply interested in leadership programs and their transformational power.

3 Comments

  1. Sanjeev Kumar Reply

    Though I agree with the fact that change needs to begin from home. I am reminded of a book I read a book entitled, The third parent, when I was researching for my Ph.D on Media and the construction of social self” The third parent being referred to in the book was Television. Today we have two more parents – mobile and internet. Both of which give even more accessibility and content which is even beyond television and cinema. So we have three parents – TV, Films, Mobile/Internet- and not to forget or undermine the influence of school and friends. The kids today spend much less time at home that with the “other parents”. And what normative is seen and shown in that space is even more problematic as far as gender equity is concerned. I sometimes wonder, and Renuka will bear me out, we really do not what what to do about it. For many kids the real home is with these other parents and friends. They are shapers of the self in ways you cannot even fathom unless you have been on the other side of the business. I hope we have strong programme keeping these “homes/parents” in mind in conjunction with the “home” where we are putting our efforts to make change in perception and practices for a more balanced gendered worldview.

    • Renuka Motihar Reply

      Thanks Sanjeev and Anju for your comments. You are right – change has to begin at home and in the spaces that you mention Sanjeev – TV, films, mobile/internet.

  2. Change needs to begin at home. Parents need to alter their mindsets and view girls and boys equal. If each of us does that, change will happen at a rapid pace.

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